The Spooky Quote by Brené Brown That Reprogramed Me Mind Forever

The disturbing lesson that changed my life.

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You can’t lift a stone without finding a guru telling you not to give up.

These gurus have turned life into a boot camp.

A place where we’re all screwed up, but we pretend we’re not.

And that tough guy attitude of making others believe that we are the last Coke in the desert makes us the last Coke in the desert: it leaves us alone in the middle of f*cking nowhere.

I used to live like that, swallowing my miseries for fear that people would discover I was a broken toy.

One day, I read a book by Brené Brown, and one of her sentences changed everything.

Brené Brown’s haunting sentence formatted the hard drive of my mind.

“Worrying about scarcity is our culture’s way of manifesting post-traumatic stress syndrome. It occurs when we’ve been through too much, and instead of coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we get angry, scared, and fight with our fellow human beings.” — Brené Brown.

Boom!

That sentence demolished all my beliefs in one fell swoop.

I started reading everything I could get my hands on by Brené and discovered that she had gone through many stages.

• Smoking poet. (Like me :-)

• Angry activist. (Like me :-)

• Corporate climber. (Same as me :-)

• Out-of-control party girl. (Same as me :-)

Only she didn’t call them stages but “armors.”

René states, “Each stage of my life (armor) was built on the same premise: Keep everyone at a safe distance and always have an escape plan.”

That’s how I lived after a shitty childhood.

I guess it’s normal after growing up with kids making fun of you and hitting you while the teachers look the other way, and your father scolds you when you get home for not standing up to the bullies. (The 80s and 90s were not as idyllic as they tell you.)

So, as an adult, I didn’t want anyone to see me as weak; I didn’t want anyone to be able to hurt me again.

I didn’t want to remember my father yelling, “Real men, don’t cry! If I come home and find out you got beaten up at school and didn’t fight back, I’ll beat you. “

I didn’t want a life of scarcity; I wanted to have enough resources so that no one would ever f*ck me over again. And that obsession made me live a shitty life.

The meaning of life according to Brené Brown.